“Trust” is the name of relationship

What does relationship means? Relationship is a “TRUST” and “CARE”.
Relationship does not mean how much time you spent together, but it is how much you trust, how much you love, how much care you have for each other. Relationship means honesty. In any relationship every human being has expectations from each other but good relations last only when we are aware of our expectations, behaviour, actions, words, facial expressions, attitude, attention. At times we feel neglected because of our unreasonable expectations. Every relationship can be made stronger through good communication. Unfortunately, most people don’t learn to communicate effectively as they grow in age. When we are small we learn to speak, but what to speak, when and where to speak it takes life time to learn. In any relation effective communication is necessary.
It would be a great care if you understand other person’s feelings, needs, likes and dislikes clearly. And if you sacrifice your own needs and happiness to satisfy other persons desires, you may end up with fight and disappointment, so convey your feelings too. Understanding grows properly when a person understands himself and other persons emotions, desires, needs and work out mutually. This is a way to make relations strong.
We meet different people and build different type of relations such as family, colleague, teacher, student, children, boss, friend, romantic relations. It is very important to understand that in different relations we have different part to play. And there are different expectations in every relation. Sometimes, these expectations are clearly understood by both the parties and sometimes they just develop as people spend time with each other.
Depth and sincerity in relations are most important factors. We should have few good and solid relations, rather than focusing on too many people, who slip in and out of your life, as and when they want. Relationships are to provide emotional fulfilment that humans need as social animal. People have an innate need to feel loved, connected, and important to someone else. Some people feel this need more strongly, some don’t. Even if you don’t want the emotional benefits of relationships, you can benefit for networking, career opportunities, someone to call when you are in trouble.
A healthy relationship requires two ways traffic. Try to not to waste time in arguing. In relationship try to keep check on happiness of each other. Fulfil your promises. Don’t just say you will get a birthday gift and forget about it. By doing this other person will lose trust in you. If your memory is not good, write it down on personal diary or set a reminder in your cell phone. Try to keep your promises. If you cannot keep your promises, admit your mistake. You have to be responsible for your actions and cannot make anyone else guilty or responsible for your own mistakes. If you notice a mistake, apologize for the same without wasting time. Be realistic and loyal in your relationship.
What makes a relationship strong and healthy, choose the ways and resolve those problems and push though the hard days, instead of just later issues. Working on problems will help you to be positive. Positivity helps in making relations good.

How to remain Happy ?

Most people have no control over their emotional well-being. It is said that life is a matter of choices. Being happy is a choice. Decide, “Whatever the circumstances I want to be happy and I will be happy always.” There are no terms and conditions for happiness. Most people are as happy as they decide to be. Happiness doesn’t depend upon who you are or what you have. It depends on what you think . Our basic psychological needs include feeling loved, secure, and good at what we do. You also want to have a sense of control. Money doesn’t automatically fill these requirements, but it sure can help. I’ve learned to look for ways to spend money to stay in closer contact with my family and friends; to promote my health; to work more efficiently; to eliminate sources of irritation and marital conflict; to support important causes; and to have enlarging experiences. For example, when my sister got married, I splurged on a better SMART PHONE . It was expensive, but it gave me a lot of happiness . We expect others to treat us better than we treat them. We work out a few times and stress because we don’t instantly look like models. We want to live like rockstars, ignoring the fact that only a few people reach that level of success .In short, we tend to have unreasonable expectations. The difference between what we feel entitled to and what we actually get is the source of much misery .Accept life in its entirety; stop thinking in terms of what should be and accept what is. When you live without entitlement, every good thing becomes a wonderful surprise. Even better, expecting nothing means never being disappointed. Expectation is also the root cause of all the sorrows . “The best remedy for those who are afraid, lonely or unhappy is to go outside, somewhere where they can be quiet, alone with the heavens, nature and God. As long as this exists, and it certainly always will, then there will be comfort for every sorrow, whatever the circumstances may be.” Anne Frank
Here are few ways that I follow. Hope they help you too.
A. Hang around with positive people who make you smile. Avoid those who are perpetually complaining and criticising.
B. Always remind yourself that nothing is more important than your peace and happiness. You are born to be happy!
C. Always keep a goal in life, something to look forward to. That will keep you motivated.
D. Try to make the best of every situation. Spend time reading, watching movies, exploring your hobbies and most importantly travel. Travel as much as you can. Focus on collecting memories that last a lifetime. 

At the end of the day, bad things will happen to you. You will have highs, lows and lots of mediums in your life. You’re only human, just like everybody else. So Just change the attitude and thinking towards it . IF YOU WANT TO BE HAPPY – MAKE OTHERS HAPPY – Dada

Birds and People

Are Birds the most detached creations of God? When a mother bird has fulfilled her responsibility of nourishing the newly born baby in the nest, she allows the baby to fly away into the sky, mingle with all other birds and form her own flocks. Complete freedom!
We humans are the most attached creations and will go to any extent to protect our families and wealth. This creates divisions in our society based on sub castes, castes, religions, cultures, languages, states and countries that fight for superiority.
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